![]() ![]() For example: “I don’t think I deserve to date with her/him” “There are so many better girls/guys than me why would he/she choose me” When it comes to identifying the most common causes of jealousy, here are a few that I’d point out: Such manifestations are the results-but not the causes. Obsessive texting, calling or connecting in any other way, etc.įrom my story, you can see the whole bouquet of these symptoms. Isolating your partner’s communication with other people Īccusing your partner when they look or give attention to other people Īlways asking where your partner is and whom they spend time with The major symptoms of pathological jealousy include:Ĭontrolling your partner’s social circle The most common symptoms of pathological jealousy Pathological jealousy is a psychological disorder when obsessive thoughts in your head become so delusional that you suspect your partner is being unfaithful without any real proof. There is a medical term called pathological jealousy. I’ve now learned to spot and prevent these triggers. The jealousy, insecurity, and fear would sneak out at night, in the morning, and any other time there was a trigger. I was always aware of what I was doing, but I just couldn’t control it. I learned a lot during this whole process. Self-awareness is a key to your mental health and overall well-being ![]() My mind wasn’t.įor 2 more months after the break-up, I would go to bed with the thought: “If only I could get it back.” However, neither she nor I wanted to actually get it back. One day she told me that she wanted to break up. I became obsessed, addicted and, finally, it burst out. I gave her presents and pretended to surprise her when, in fact, I just wanted her to be with no one else except for me. I knew where she worked and where she lived, so I would make a “surprise” being present everywhere she went. I wanted to be the only person she goes out with. I thought that she was cheating on me with every person she talked to. I would track the time when she was online, and I could literally spot the “offline” periods and I would instantly connect it to her “cheating on me.” My ways of controlling her were getting more and more sophisticated. ![]() The more people she talked with, the more jealous I would become. I started thinking that she was hiding something from me. I also felt that my second half was tearing me apart. I wanted to know where she was, what she was doing, who she was speaking to and what she was speaking about. That’s the moment where my demons started to crawl out pretty shamelessly. She started going out with her friends more, and she would say to me that she is a bit tired and needs to relax. For her, it was probably the most painful part, where we would walk in silence. I told her all the stories I could tell, and now I was just enjoying her presence. However, very soon she had lost her interest in me. At first, it seemed like an exciting and fun game. She became the only person I wanted to talk to and to walk with. I like to spend my time in a close circle of friends where the maximum number of people doesn’t exceed 3-and that’s including me.Īs I considered her my second half, I needed her everywhere. So, being surrounded by people, laughing, chilling and communicating with them was a part of her life. The problem was that she was an extrovert, while I was an introvert. The thing was that I was very insecure about my own future, but for some reason, I believed that now I could handle two lives. I finally found “my second half”, you know. I started dating this girl because I thought she can cure my depression and give me what I want. As the opportunity came in, I took hold of it with my both hands. She wasn’t perfect after all, but neither was I.īefore we met, I was in depression looking for salvation.ĭuring the daytime, I was a cheerful guy, but in the evening I’d become a begging, miserable, anxious creature that was seeking love and appreciation. What started as a romantic journey turned out to be a mental disaster for me and the girl I was dating. That’s the phrase I heard from my ex-girlfriend after 4 months of total control and jealousy bursts. However, I could feel this guy pretty well because only a few months ago I was in his shoes. He kept on bullying her, and finally, he started calling her names because she was a bit late. She was trying to explain to her boyfriend that she was just a few hours late and that he doesn’t need to worry about it. She was talking on her phone with her partner, obviously.Īs I can recall from her conversation, she visited her friend, a girl, and they had a fun time together. I usually don’t care about what’s happening around me, but because of the latest events, I started to be more attentive. ![]()
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